A friend of mine finally broke up. After weeks of trying to resuscitate what was generally acknowledged as a doomed relationship to begin with, she finally gave up. As she sat trying to put into words what she was going through I couldn’t help but feel sad.
A relationship takes so much out of you and you never realize how deeply you are in it till the void appears in your life. And then you struggle/scramble to fill it with anything and everything – be it work, parties, another relationship anything. But try as you may the hurt/ bitterness/ rejection or just pain always lingers - and does so for a long time.
Why are all breakups the same? I have yet to come across a happy breakup. Does it exist? Maybe because all my friends are very passionate people and passionate people never do things in half measure. When they love they love fully and so the breakup stings hard. The funny thing is by now we all know what we have to do to deal with it. Spend times with friends, don’t mope around, busy yourself, cut your losses, take a vacation, in the long run this is good for you – all standard break up advices available to all. Somehow I don’t buy that they work.
But still life moves on. And as you try to pull yourself together, pick up the pieces and move ahead you can’t help but wonder- was it worth it all? And the answer sadly in many cases is NO.
2 comments:
Damn Dr Kowl - you should throw in staying away from alcohol and disabling the sms facility on your phone as well - i call it containment! :)
Im patenting that so im gonna charge any of your readers - will go into your consultation fee account
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