Okay toh aajkal mujhe bahut advice mil rahi hai. Phone par, sms mein, email par, chats mein, padosis se and even my maid decided the other day to join the "give surabhi advice free of cost" club. I mean I have nothing against advices. During most times I love to give them myself. Corner me any time of the day or night if u will (considering I am a recently converted insomniac)and I would dish it out to you by the dollops.
Advice on marriage, love, life, therapy, girls, guys, money or lack of it, TV programs, why wont she love me?, why wont he leave me?.. anything and i am ready, well set to be of assistance. But this is were my love fest with advice ends. While I love giving it, somehow getting it back in more quantity than desired doesnt really make me a happy girl. And I for one like me to be a 'happy girl'.
I mean kal ki baat le lo. I was trying to find the way from hyd. central to city centre. Its actually a 5 min. distance but if u happen to be geographically challenged like me you wud know most 5 min distances have the potential of turning into 30 mins of aimless driving and cursing. So to be safer I decided to stop and ask a 'bhala manas' for directions. Bas iss baar toh solicit hi kari thi advice. Nice guy gave me 3 diff. ways of reaching the place and then proceeded to discuss with another passerby who had stopped out of the goodness of his heart and clean curiosity that only Indians possess(DEKHEN CHAL KYA RAHA HAI) the best of way of reaching considering the traffic and time of the day. Then further as I was leaving told me to be careful kyonki checking ho rahi hai aaj kal. Elections hain naa- added the other gentleman not wanting to be left behind.
Khair ache log the..main 15 min. mein paunch gayi..Sirf ek wrong turn liye. Anyway point of the story is..khair koi point nahi hai..kaafi pointless thi..par haan mera thought process yeh tha .ki abb kuch kosmic balance hona chahiye..bahut free advice le li..abb thodi deni chahiye..toh here is some free addvice from moi for all u bachcha bachchis out there:
1. Dont take every advice at face value.
2. Always tip the waiters- generously
3. Be nice to ppl esp. to ones you dont have to be nice to.
4. Have a clean handkerchief with you always
5. Always rber your courtsies - thk us and sorries
6. Save
7. Teach ur children some manners
8. Dont be cruel to animals
9. Always let the lady have the last piece of the cake :)
10. Own a good library and read. (classics they say are books ppl buy but never read)
11. Never flinch office supplies
12. Always carry some mint
13. Never leave dishes in the sink and go to bed.
14. be the first to apologise in all fights...ESP. when u r NOT in the wrong :)
15. call ur mum
16. (for a fren?)Pray :)
rest for later time..abhi itni implement karlo
byes
Monday, April 20, 2009
Friday, April 17, 2009
Not such a gud day
Have u had one of those days where u just want to shake someone up..a conversation thats so ridicuous that u dont know what to say ne more..i generally dont like ppl with power and wht i hate even more is little people with power..little petty ppl who can make ur life a lot easier if they cooperated but choose not to simply because they can and so want to make thgs tough..so u can guess by now (incase u missed the title) that today was not such a gud day.
Now let me crib some more..and in greater details
some weeks back i lost my lil black wallet and with it my driving license, credit card, all debit cards and those loyalty shoppers (shoppers stop/pantaloons etc etc)cards as well..now u may ask why did i carry all of this everydy with me even though i clearly wud never need all of them at the same time..to that i will say - next question plz..then u may ask why did i not (like every other person i have come across since this incident) maintain a photocopy of these esp. the DL. To that my fren i will ..well not say anythg...i know i shd have..i thot i had..but i guess i forgot ..so the long and short of it is these days i am without ..a lot of thgs
So anyways more crying over spilt milk later...rite now let me update u with today's incident..so i wanted to get my DL made..and as always i want to bypass the agents..as a firm believer of 'not spending money uselessly on agents who do nothing of value anyway' i had decided that i will get it on my merit. So i went to the RTO carrying:
1. photocopy of passport
2. passport (for verification)
3. passport size pics (6)
4. glue
5. stapler
6. copy of my rental agreement (stamp paper and all) duly notarised by the ..ahem notariser ?
i buy the forms..i fill them out..i stand in the queue..i say no to 3 agents ..and then my turn comes..
the guy goes thru the docs..checks the stuff and then we have this conversation:
guy: this wont do
me: what wont do
guy: this ..shows me the rental agreement
me: why
guy: its a rent agreement
me: precisely
guy: it wont do
me (getting slightly irritated as this is happening in an open area outside the RTO and its hot outside): can u tell me why wont it do
guy: we cant accept this
me: why
guy: we are not allowed
me: (wanted to ask y..but decided on a new line of questioning) so wht can u accept
guy: points to the wall..a printout mentions docs that.. well.. i dont have :(
(the reader may wish to know that i have just moved into a new apartment and am not from this city so have no address proof other than the damn RA)
me: (now realizing losing my temper aint helping the situation) plz do somethg abt this..i have no other ..blah blah blah
guy: (in a nicer tone i think) get ur mobile bill
me: but thats of my old address
guy: then get one that has the new address
me: the mobile co. will accept the rental agreement as proof of address?
guy: yes
me: then why cant u?
guy: we are not allowed
me: (trying to get him to see reason) u r not accepting this (wave the doc in air for a more dramatic effect) rite now but the cell co. will and will change my address and that u will accept so why dont u save me the bother and plz accept this abhi itself
guy: procedure hai madam
me: okay
then i start looking for an agent ..i know ...i know..but i didnt want another wasted trip to RTO
agent: madam aap kp pehle aana tha
me: haan ..khair aap kitna loge
A: 700
me: WHT!!( first rule of haggling - always act surprised)
A: madam ander dena padta hai
me: zara reasonable ho
A..me..A..me later he agrees for 500 :)
then
A: u shdnt have gone and spoken to the officer
me: why not
A: woh govt. wale hain
me: toh
A: aapka kaam nahin hoga
me: ....
A: u give me the rental copy and i will get thgs arranged
me: yipeee(to myself :) )
A: par time lena hoga 15 din lagenge
Me: @#$%%$##
Scene 2:
At I#$% office
Me: change of address karvana ha..heres the rental agreement..
guy: madam supplementary doc. lagega
me: yehi toh hai supp. docu
Guy: nahin mam koi mobile bill etc. type
Me : @#$@@%
Now let me crib some more..and in greater details
some weeks back i lost my lil black wallet and with it my driving license, credit card, all debit cards and those loyalty shoppers (shoppers stop/pantaloons etc etc)cards as well..now u may ask why did i carry all of this everydy with me even though i clearly wud never need all of them at the same time..to that i will say - next question plz..then u may ask why did i not (like every other person i have come across since this incident) maintain a photocopy of these esp. the DL. To that my fren i will ..well not say anythg...i know i shd have..i thot i had..but i guess i forgot ..so the long and short of it is these days i am without ..a lot of thgs
So anyways more crying over spilt milk later...rite now let me update u with today's incident..so i wanted to get my DL made..and as always i want to bypass the agents..as a firm believer of 'not spending money uselessly on agents who do nothing of value anyway' i had decided that i will get it on my merit. So i went to the RTO carrying:
1. photocopy of passport
2. passport (for verification)
3. passport size pics (6)
4. glue
5. stapler
6. copy of my rental agreement (stamp paper and all) duly notarised by the ..ahem notariser ?
i buy the forms..i fill them out..i stand in the queue..i say no to 3 agents ..and then my turn comes..
the guy goes thru the docs..checks the stuff and then we have this conversation:
guy: this wont do
me: what wont do
guy: this ..shows me the rental agreement
me: why
guy: its a rent agreement
me: precisely
guy: it wont do
me (getting slightly irritated as this is happening in an open area outside the RTO and its hot outside): can u tell me why wont it do
guy: we cant accept this
me: why
guy: we are not allowed
me: (wanted to ask y..but decided on a new line of questioning) so wht can u accept
guy: points to the wall..a printout mentions docs that.. well.. i dont have :(
(the reader may wish to know that i have just moved into a new apartment and am not from this city so have no address proof other than the damn RA)
me: (now realizing losing my temper aint helping the situation) plz do somethg abt this..i have no other ..blah blah blah
guy: (in a nicer tone i think) get ur mobile bill
me: but thats of my old address
guy: then get one that has the new address
me: the mobile co. will accept the rental agreement as proof of address?
guy: yes
me: then why cant u?
guy: we are not allowed
me: (trying to get him to see reason) u r not accepting this (wave the doc in air for a more dramatic effect) rite now but the cell co. will and will change my address and that u will accept so why dont u save me the bother and plz accept this abhi itself
guy: procedure hai madam
me: okay
then i start looking for an agent ..i know ...i know..but i didnt want another wasted trip to RTO
agent: madam aap kp pehle aana tha
me: haan ..khair aap kitna loge
A: 700
me: WHT!!( first rule of haggling - always act surprised)
A: madam ander dena padta hai
me: zara reasonable ho
A..me..A..me later he agrees for 500 :)
then
A: u shdnt have gone and spoken to the officer
me: why not
A: woh govt. wale hain
me: toh
A: aapka kaam nahin hoga
me: ....
A: u give me the rental copy and i will get thgs arranged
me: yipeee(to myself :) )
A: par time lena hoga 15 din lagenge
Me: @#$%%$##
Scene 2:
At I#$% office
Me: change of address karvana ha..heres the rental agreement..
guy: madam supplementary doc. lagega
me: yehi toh hai supp. docu
Guy: nahin mam koi mobile bill etc. type
Me : @#$@@%
hmmm
So I chanced upon this sentence today - epic heroes were judged by their actions, not by the results. Reminded me of certain lines I once read as a child
"When the great scorer comes to mark against your name,
He writes not whether u won or lost
but how u played the game."
Athough these lines seem very upliftingly noble I am afraid that I donot completely believe in them anymore. History evaluates you on one parameter and one parameter alone - Did you win the game? After all who writes history if not the winners? Honourable men who fail may find a mention in its footnotes but it is the men who succeed..who win wars..who create nation..who move generations-that make the front cover of Time (mag. if u will). We cherish those who made 'something' of themselves. We strive to do the same. Everyone of us, in every way, is aiming to succeed. The battles may be different but the ultimate war is the same. :)
Anyway that reminds me of another (un)related aspect. Should you suffer in silence or raise a ruckus? Should you be gentle and sober/ dignified to the last or should you go down fighting/crying/being a pain in the butt till the very end? :) Well to each his own but i rber watching an Oprah show in which they had organised a mock showdown for the audience. When certain audience members came in they were denied entrance and were told that their show tickets were for a later show. Unknown to them, their actions were being taped. Most accepted the person's statement and decided to leave. But a few ranted and raved, created a ruckus and no they werent very dignified about it. Then a psychologist later on the show analysed the tapes and said it is the latter who will make it big in life ..who will (vaguely i rber) if on a drowning boat get the last life jacket :)
So i guess sometimes in life raising a hue and cry is not such a bad thg after all.
"When the great scorer comes to mark against your name,
He writes not whether u won or lost
but how u played the game."
Athough these lines seem very upliftingly noble I am afraid that I donot completely believe in them anymore. History evaluates you on one parameter and one parameter alone - Did you win the game? After all who writes history if not the winners? Honourable men who fail may find a mention in its footnotes but it is the men who succeed..who win wars..who create nation..who move generations-that make the front cover of Time (mag. if u will). We cherish those who made 'something' of themselves. We strive to do the same. Everyone of us, in every way, is aiming to succeed. The battles may be different but the ultimate war is the same. :)
Anyway that reminds me of another (un)related aspect. Should you suffer in silence or raise a ruckus? Should you be gentle and sober/ dignified to the last or should you go down fighting/crying/being a pain in the butt till the very end? :) Well to each his own but i rber watching an Oprah show in which they had organised a mock showdown for the audience. When certain audience members came in they were denied entrance and were told that their show tickets were for a later show. Unknown to them, their actions were being taped. Most accepted the person's statement and decided to leave. But a few ranted and raved, created a ruckus and no they werent very dignified about it. Then a psychologist later on the show analysed the tapes and said it is the latter who will make it big in life ..who will (vaguely i rber) if on a drowning boat get the last life jacket :)
So i guess sometimes in life raising a hue and cry is not such a bad thg after all.
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